How to make a woman orgasm

Butterfly on a naked womens back


Tim Ferris’s “15-minute method” is a guaranteed way to give a women an orgasm, according to the methods creator Tim Ferris.

Ok, first a little heads up: before someone else can give you an orgasm, you must be able to give yourself one. No one can “give” you an orgasm, it is only you who can give yourself an orgasm. But someone else can help you. To get there with the help of someone else, you need to be comfortable with masturbating and getting on your own.

If you do not have the habit of masturbating, start with shorter sessions of eg 5 minutes before you fall asleep or immediately when you wake up for a few weeks. Note what you say to yourself in your head. That it is inappropriate / “shameful”? That it is impossible? That it’s ridiculous? It disappears after a little practice and you need to be comfortable coming on your own to be able to come with someone else. Read more in Masturbationguide.

The 15 minutes method

Fundamental to the method is that the orgasm giver emphasizes that this is a session without a goal. Focus on removing all expectations and performance obligations. He or she can say something like: “I will touch you for 15 minutes. You don’t have to do anything and you don’t have to do anything afterwards. There is nothing to achieve. Just focus on my point of contact. This is an exercise “. The focus should only be on the clitoral stimulation – a short caressing movement that is repeated over and over again. Just as the focus is on breathing during meditation.

This is how it’s done

The woman undresses from the waist down and lies on her back with a pillow under her head. Her legs are bent and separated, her feet together in the butterfly’s position. If it feels uncomfortable you can put pillows under her knees. The partner sits at her right side, at the height of her clitoral region, on at least two pillows. He or she crosses his/her right leg across her torso, the foot is lowered by her opposite hip. The givers left leg is straight or folded under her left leg. If you are to touch her with your right hand, it is important that you turn the right wrist as if you were looking at a watch, this gives a better angle for your fingers.

Put the timer on 15 minutes. Limit the session to exactly 15 minutes. It removes performance requirements and provides a safe start and end time for her. Look at it as a yoga or breathing exercise. It is an exercise in focused repetition and not an exercise with a goal. Two things are fundamental to getting the technology:

  1. Finding “the upper right clitoral quadrant” which is the most sensitive area.
  2. Using a pressure corresponding to the weight of two sheets of paper.

First, find the upper right quadrant

Separate the labia, pull the skin around the clitoris upwards with the lower part of your palm, anchor the clitoris by holding the clitoral skin in place with your right thumb. Place your left hand under her buttocks, two fingers under each buttock and the thumb resting against (not in) the lower part of the entrance to the vagina. This anchors her and helps her relax. Imagine looking at the clitoris from between her legs, so that the top of the clitoris is at 12 o’clock on a bell. Find the watch at 1 o’clock – sometimes a small pit between the “foreskin” and her clitoris – with your right-hand index finger and start caressing with the lightest possible pressure and only 1.5 mm movement. The finger tip is better than the fingerprint surface so cut your nails before. Take your time to find the spot.

When you find the right spot, she will not be able to withstand more than an extremely light pressure, such as stroking the side against her skin. Caress in a constant rhythm in a set of 2-3 minutes. It is possible to change the speed between sets. When 15 minutes have passed, you perform a “grounding” maneuver to give a good closure.

Grounding

Apply steady pressure on the pubic bone and upwards towards the head with the entire palms of both hands. One hand puts the pressure up, one down at the same time.

Some helpful advice

  • Apply the easiest possible pressure! Not more than the weight of two sheets of paper. It takes a lot of concentration to caress so easily.
  • Keep the exercise speechless. Only focus on repetitive movement for 15 minutes.
  • Consider using a blindfold to help relax even more.
  • Make sure she turns off the show. She doesn’t have to validate you. Make that clear. She does not need to groan and sound. It’s about subtle sensations and nothing else.
  • Make it pleasurable, call it an experiment and keep it easy.
  • No small talk. Some women talk to distract themselves and prevent orgasm or expressions of pleasure. This is an exercise to get over emberassment so no talking.
  • Promote relaxation carefully. If she seems tense say something like: “I notice you’re tense. Try to relax a little”
  • If she gets strong muscle contractions that will obviously get her off before 15 minutes have passed, encourage her to breathe and squeeze as if she wdould be peeing. She will not pee and it helps her stay on the plateau and reduce fatigue.


The most common mistakes

  • Being focused on “the goal”.
  • To give in to penetration. It also includes women who ask for penetration. Do not give in until 15 minutes have passed! It’s ok to have sex afterwards but not until the session is over. She might pray and beg at that moment but she will thank you afterwards. Once you have completed the 15 minute method 5 times, you can break the rules and give in before 15 minutes have passed. But not until you have followed the rules 5 times!
  • Asking her “non-winning” questions, such as “does it feel good”, “is it nice”, gives very likely dishonest answers. Asking questions is good but use questions of a guiding nature instead: “do you want a lighter touch”, “more left or right”, “higher or lower”?

Good luck and have fun! 🙂


Read more about the 15 minutes method in Tim Ferris book “The 4-hour body: an uncommon guide to rapid fat-loss, incredible sex and becoming superhuman.”